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097: How To Lead Differently Part 2

097: How To Lead Differently Part 2

Have you ever found that you need a new leadership skill that will help equip your team? Today is part two of a conversation where I answer Jessica’s question about how to lead differently through coaching.

Coaching is a facilitated monologue through which a person understands the next best step forward.

Unlike consulting, coaching helps your staff discover what is holding them back and what possibilities are.  The answers don’t come from you, the coach, but from the Holy Spirit working within them.

Two “tools” I use:

I.G.R.O.W

  • I – what is the issue?
  • G – what is the goal of our conversation and the goal for a solution?
  • R – what is the reality of the situation?
  • O – what are the options that you (the staff person) have considered?
  • W – what will it take to take the next step?

7 Key Questions: (from The Coaching Habit)

  1. What’s on your mind?
  2. And what else?
  3. What’s the real challenge here for you?
  4. What do you want?
  5. How can I help?
  6. If yes to this, what do you have to say ‘no’ to?
  7. What was useful in our conversation?

If you’d like to talk more with me about how to coach your staff, you can contact me via email here or go click the ‘coaching’ tab on the website.

Links:

  • Audible.com – 180K audio book, right at your fingers
093: My Top 3 Productivity Apps

093: My Top 3 Productivity Apps

Technology is great, especially when we use it to organize our lives and make our days more productive.  On today’s episode, I talk about the top 3 productivity apps that I use and give examples of how I use them throughout the day.  Kelly asked what top 3 productivity apps do I use.

These are what works for me.

I use one or all of them multiple times per day.

Here how I use them from the beginning of the day till the end.

* Notes app on iPhone with voice dictation.  While I’m driving to work, I record any thoughts or to do’s that come to mind.
* Wunderlist.  (link below) A massive to-do list app. It has multiple to-do lists, under which you can create subtasks and dates and reminders, organize the most important thing, share to do list. So I get to work and transfer my crazy thoughts from my notes app into a folder that is my main INBOX folder. Everything starts there.
* Calendar app. I cross reference the organization of my tasks with my calendar and follow it throughout the day.

Then I have 4 other folders.  This is how I prioritize what should come first for today and it helps for what I can put off until tomorrow.

Here’s the question:

What is the outcome if I don’t do this today?

So my filter isn’t what I should get done, but what is the negative outcome if I don’t get it done.
Then I organize them into four folders:
* ‘A’ EVENTS (Must do – serious consequences for non-completion – meeting with boss, visiting client)
* ‘B’ EVENTS (Should do – mild consequences for non-completion – check email, call someone, return phone call)
* ‘C’ EVENTS (Nice to do – no consequences for non-completion – call home, read an article)
* ‘D’ EVENTS (Delegate – everything possible )
* Then within each of these folders, I organize what I should do first.

To see how I use these folders, download the free Productivity 101 below.

NOW I HAVE A PLAN FOR THE DAY!!

Peace!

 

092: How To Set And Achieve My Goals

092: How To Set And Achieve My Goals

As it is the beginning of 2018, Goal setting is the topic of many conversations. Most people try and fail at setting goals but the exercise is important to the desire for success. Today, I talk about two ways to set goals.

Why people don’t set goals:

  1. First, they don’t think goal setting is important.
    Brian Tracy writes about that. He says:

    “Living without clear goals is like driving in a thick fog. No matter how powerful or well-engineered your car, you drive slowly, hesitantly, making little progress on even the smoothest road. Deciding upon your goals clears the fog immediately and allows you to focus and channel your energies and your abilities. Clear goals enable you to step on the accelerator of your own life and race ahead rapidly toward achieving more of what you really want.”

  2. The second reason people don’t set goals is the fear of failure.
  3. The third reason people don’t set goals is they simply don’t know how.

Goals are important in that they give a general direction for one’s activities. The goal should be specific, measurable and have a date on it. The activity of the goal should be within your control but not necessarily the outcome. Own the Goal.

For example:

Poor Goal:

  • Increase worship attendance 25%. We can’t control people’s behaviors.

Better Goal:

  • Make the worship experience more inviting. We can hang specifics on that one by, for example, providing better visuals, evaluate and update our worship presentation, become a more skilled speaker, incorporate or eliminate certain elements, encourage members to be inviting.

Poor Goal:

  • Increase the number of our small group participation by 30%.

Better Goal:

  • Increase the number of small group opportunities by 15 small groups. We can set up the environments and whether the people join one or not is not ours to control.

Here’s one process for setting Goal – if your personality is more ‘free’ this might fit.

  1. Set a goal: the outcome. What you want to achieve.
  2. Establish strategies: The broad approaches you are going to take in order to achieve the goal.
  3. Define objectives for each strategy. Objectives are the measurable tasks that will be undertaken in order to realize the strategies.
  4. Develop tactics – the tools that will be used in order to achieve the objectives.
    *Put a date on these… a goal without a date is just a dream… you can always adjust….

Example: World War II in order to illustrate the application of these concepts.
Goal: Win the war.
Strategy: Surround Germany to choke off the resources that fueled its military force.
Objective: Invade France. This is measurable. You’ll know if you’ve succeeded and to what degree.
Tactics: What will you use to do this? e.g. ships, planes, soldiers, etc.

In summary:
Goals = the broad outcomes
Strategies = the general approaches you will take
Objectives = the measurable steps to achieve the strategies
Tactics = the tools you will use.

Here is one of the methods that I use for goal setting. It is from speaker/author Brian Tracy:

  1. Decide what you want. What do you really want for your life this year? To influence a certain people group? To climb a mountain or run a marathon? To write a book?
  2. Write it down.
  3. Set a deadline. Remember that a goal without a deadline is only a dream. If the goal is huge (e.g. write my first novel), then set sub-deadlines (e.g. finish one chapter per month).
  4. Brainstorm a list of everything you can think of that you could do to accomplish this.
  5. Organize the list. What is the sequence (i.e. what has to come first, etc) and what is the priority (i.e. what is the most important item on this list?). Accomplish that first.
  6. Do something. This is the most crucial of the list. “Simple action gets things done. Focused action changes the world!” (I just made that up. Feel free to Tweet it :))
  7. Do something every day.
  8. Get a coach! (Click here to find out about working with me),

Peace!

090: Life According To Doris 101

090: Life According To Doris 101

Having a correct perspective on life is vital to enjoying its beauty. Doris Garbe was one who had that perspective. Learn the secret to a full life today on our podcast.

089: People are People – The Muslim And Me [Podcast]

089: People are People – The Muslim And Me [Podcast]

What happens when two people who are very different find themselves in a car together having a conversation. It was a beautiful moment between a Muslim man and me.

087: You Were Born For The Lake, Not The Pond [Podcast]

087: You Were Born For The Lake, Not The Pond [Podcast]

Most people live the ‘safe’ life. They never take risks and venture out and miss the beauty of the lake for the safety of the pond. Here are three steps to taking your life to the next level.

086: The Key To Turning Chaos To Calm

086: The Key To Turning Chaos To Calm

You don’t have to look far to find that chaos is running rampant in our society and world. If you let it get to you, it will hinder your success and ruin your outlook on life. Today, I talk about one powerful key making sure you can stay calm in the midst of chaos.

085: The Power Of Trust In Conversations And How To Build ItPODCAST

085: The Power Of Trust In Conversations And How To Build ItPODCAST

Have you ever been talking with someone and intuitively, you know their mind is somewhere else? Maybe it’s their eyes peering over your shoulder or something they say that doesn’t fit the current conversation? It’s irritating. Today, I share how to NOT be THAT person.

084: What Voices Are You Listening To?

084: What Voices Are You Listening To?

All of us have messages or ‘voices’, coming at us from all different directions. Which voice you chose to listen to will directly affect your ability to move forward, your self-perception and your success. Today, I talk about the different places from which you hear ‘voices’ and how to chose which ones to listen to.