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097: How To Lead Differently Part 2

097: How To Lead Differently Part 2

Have you ever found that you need a new leadership skill that will help equip your team? Today is part two of a conversation where I answer Jessica’s question about how to lead differently through coaching.

Coaching is a facilitated monologue through which a person understands the next best step forward.

Unlike consulting, coaching helps your staff discover what is holding them back and what possibilities are.  The answers don’t come from you, the coach, but from the Holy Spirit working within them.

Two “tools” I use:

I.G.R.O.W

  • I – what is the issue?
  • G – what is the goal of our conversation and the goal for a solution?
  • R – what is the reality of the situation?
  • O – what are the options that you (the staff person) have considered?
  • W – what will it take to take the next step?

7 Key Questions: (from The Coaching Habit)

  1. What’s on your mind?
  2. And what else?
  3. What’s the real challenge here for you?
  4. What do you want?
  5. How can I help?
  6. If yes to this, what do you have to say ‘no’ to?
  7. What was useful in our conversation?

If you’d like to talk more with me about how to coach your staff, you can contact me via email here or go click the ‘coaching’ tab on the website.

Links:

  • Audible.com – 180K audio book, right at your fingers
096: How To Lead Differently Part 1

096: How To Lead Differently Part 1

Have you ever found that you need a new leadership skill that will help equip your team? Today I answer Jessica’s question about how to lead differently through coaching.

What’s common as a leader:

  • Employees see us as the go-to person.
  • Once you become the end all of their questions, they will bring everything to you.
  • Then, we feel like we have to have all the answers.

Ultimately we become the boss.
Listen, you don’t want to be a boss … you want to be a leader.

I believe that all leaders need to learn to also be coaches. Or maybe better said is to add the skill of coaching to your tool belt.

What is coaching?

The coach approach helps people realize a change is needed because of pain or pleasure, and then helps them set up, implement and evaluate a plan for change.

What it isn’t:

Counseling (helping with emotional instability) or Mentoring/Consulting (giving strategies)

Coaching

  • Assumes overall health
  • Deals with the desire to move forward
  • Focuses on the present and future (asks “What’ and “How”)

Basically, coaching helps the person discover their own next best step toward moving forward and finding solutions.

“If they come up with it, they’ll move forward with it.”

3 Key Words:

  • Questions
  • Curiosity
  • Silence

Next Week:  Learning two models that I use for coaching.

I Will Not Feel Guilty!

I Will Not Feel Guilty!

Well, I’m admitting it.  I just burnt out.  Many difficulties, challenges, and changes have descended on my work-world that I was unable to handle.  So next week, I’ll be taking some much needed R+R and seeking whitespace.

Yet in the midst of the storm and after taking a deep, deep breath, I gave my mind and soul permission to draw a few lines in the sand regarding emotional guilt that seemed to take over.  I suggest that you do the same — for the sake of your sanity, for the sake of your leadership, for the sake of people who love you.

Each of these lines begin with the statement “I WILL NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR …”

I WILL NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR ..

  • Being who God created me to be.
  • Taking time to care for me.
  • Saying ‘no’ to people and situations that drag me down.
  • Saying ‘yes’ to people and situations that give me life.
  • Using my passion to add value to others.
  • Pouring into my strengths and managing my weaknesses.
  • Not pleasing everybody.

Draw your line.  Be your best.

Peace!